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Top 100+ Signs of a Cheating Spouse (in no particular order)
- Start using different vocabulary and manner of speech
- Take off their wedding ring, or forget to wear the ring
- Has a new interest in friends you have never heard of or met
- Begins blaming you for things that have gone wrong in the relationship
- Decides to do their own laundry
- Start to receive secretive late night phone calls or texts
- Has a new attitude toward you, friends, coworkers, or the secretary
- Drinks alcohol or comes home with the smell on their breath (doesn’t usually drink alone)
- You find a condom in their clothing or in their car
- They say they need time alone
- Accuse you of snooping through their things
- Has trouble remembering things they said before
- Wants to open a separate bank account
- Begins working long nights and weekends
- Gets coded text messages
- Doesn’t want to sign a long term rental lease
- Doesn’t want you to touch them anymore
- Listening to music that’s degrading to the opposite sex
- Takes up a new hobby or activities that keep them away
- Wants to leave the house to walk the dog more often
- Always arrives late
- Spends a lot of time with someone who is going through a divorce
- Is in front of the mirror more often
- Is calling you by new pet names you have never heard before
- Shuts off the computer or quickly clicks off a page when you enter the room
- Takes a shower as soon as they get home
- Opens a separate bank account and doesn’t tell you
- Unexplained ATM withdrawals
- Is suddenly possessive of wallet, briefcase, phone or computer
- Wants to hang out with friends they haven’t talked about in years
- Has new interests they frequently talk about
- Needs to attend out of town conventions or seminars
- Begins listening to new type of music and knowing about the artists
- Wants to send you off to relatives house alone
- Gives you a pat on the back instead of hugging or kissing
- Wants to know if you really love them
- Doesn’t want to go to church or be around friends of strong moral standing
- Is worried much more about appearance
- Wants the car emptied of all kids toys or car seats
- Comes home wearing clothing that you have never seen before
- Keeps toothbrush, and mouthwash on them or in their car
- Has a sudden drastic change in attitude
- Is acting overly jealous of you
- Buys a lot of brand new clothing
- Says a different name in their sleep
- Begins reading sex magazines and/or books
- Changes position on politics or abortion or something they stood for
- Orders things for the house they never did before
- Erases text message or caller I.D
- Picks a fight with you so they can have an excuse to leave
- Your sex life deteriorates or becomes nonexistent
- Talks about someone they work with more
- Stops complimenting you or even noticing things about you
- Seem much more distracted
- Distances themselves from the children
- Increase in phone hang-ups
- Buys you a gift for no reason (may be out of guilt)
- Starts cursing more often
- Has a sudden bad attitude toward God or religion
- Doesn’t want you coming into their workplace
- Defends other cheaters
- Talks more often with friends of the opposite sex than usual
- Gets a new hairstyle or grooming habits
- Talks about movies you haven’t seen together
- Leaves for work earlier or arrives home later
- Complains about the past more
- Doesn’t go where they said they were going
- Talks more often about disappointments
- Behaves erratically
- Changes underwear frequently
- People you know start asking you how the relationship is going
- Wants to workout at the gym frequently when they never did before
- Changes computer login passwords
- Accuses you of infidelity
- Begins drinking more socially
- Doesn’t say they love you as often
- Has a distorted view of honesty
- Quits smoking abruptly or starts smoking
- Big changes in sex habits
- Spends more time in front of the computer
- Talks down to you in public or criticizes the way you look
- Critical of you in any way they weren’t before
- Doesn’t want to go on romantic dates with you
- Wants privacy in the bathroom
- Wants more alone time
- Is suddenly private about cell phone
- Stays out late with odd excuses (** A big warning sign)
- Doesn’t want to spend time with relatives
- Stops helping pick up around the house
- Pays bills late
- Is evasive about details
- Keeps a change of clothing in their car
- Suggests you go do activities without them
- Goes to social events without you
- Locks the bathroom or bedroom door
- No longer kisses you during sex
- Has separate email accounts hidden from you
- Looks nervous when their phone rings
- Only remembers negative aspects of your relationship
- Starts dining out at restaurants you have never been to
- Turns phone off or doesn’t answer when they are away from home
- Chatting with the opposite sex on Facebook
- Looking in the personal sections of websites
- Getting phone messages, texts or emails from old girlfriends or boyfriends
- Find hair in your bed or in their car
- Smell perfume/cologne on bed sheets or their clothing
